"Talk, you will feel better"

"Talk, you will feel better"

When we see a friend, family member feeling low, sad, quite a typical line comes out of our mind, "Talk, you will feel better". Does it really work?

I was feeling low few days back and one of my friend just said the exact same words, and taking his advise I started to talk to him. To my surprise the whole conversation started getting intense, and I could start reading expressions on my friends face some where accepting my point of view where as few were against the points I was feeling. When I asked him why do you feel so and my friend said, since I know you from such a long time, u behaving like this is not really you. I immediately stopped talking to him and went back to feeling miserable. The feeling of myself getting judged by my friend started circling my head. Why would he say that, was I really wrong in the argument?

My mind along with the argument now added one more angle, my friend is judging me and there is no one to whom I can go to. 1 headache was less that this was also had to add.. He started telling me about all the incidences which had happened with me earlier, was I really ready for all the old discussion again... no I just wanted to deal with this one and I just wanted a  friend who would listen....So I said bye to my friend and told him I have to clear my head.

I was sitting in a park and I met a person sitting next to me, we both bought the same food to eat from a place across our sitting area. Looking at my face the person asked, Are you alright? and the same same line, "Talk, you will feel better". I laughed in my head and said I tried that, it did not work. To my answer the person calmly said, try again. I narrated the same story to him as I told my friend, and the person remained quite. He said eat your food its getting cold... Sitting there looking at the lake we both finished our food, said our goodbyes and left.

While walking back home, I was feeling much better, relieved, less stressed much happier, I then felt that I just needed a person who will hear me out with any reactions. There are times when you need to empty your head with putting in new angles. And the person helped me achieve that. So the incidence made me think is it "Talk, you will feel better" or "Talk to unknown person, you will feel better"