Movies real or not

Movies real or not

Have you seen a movie and gone wow.. so romantic :) Then don't just loose your mind in this thought. Start thinking about your love story and you just might realise that even your love story is not less than a movie. You can imagine a story track just run them like a movie in your head.

The advantage of a movie is that all the charters are written by 1 person and his view point is all what makes the character, whereas in a real love story you have all the characters played by individual person with their own point of view. So why think that the movie world is so realistic and every person wants a relationship just like the story from their favourite movie.

I would say the real love story is more interesting since it is filled with surprises and oneself doesn't have a control over them, don't you think this is what make life more interesting. Some says or some incidences can be tough to overcome but when they pass and you think about the old memories you become proud how the situation was handled. It teaches you lot of angles in life and help in becoming a more sculpted person.

Try reading through your relationships old mail, letters, messages and you will understand that you have come ahead of so many issues, difficulties and yet reached the level you have today. There can be come relationships which have failed for which I feel bad, yet when you remember them you will understand that the relationship has taught you so much. 

Every person which passes through your life teaches you some thing and if you are in a relationship then that teaches you much more than you realise. So don't just live in a dream world of movies, live your own life and you will thank to all the people who have come in and went. Since they have given you valuable lessons in life.

Even the stories from movies have some hint of real life people or situations, it is just that the writer was able to correlate and observe these situations in real life and connect the dots to make a wonderful movie. It so happens that your best hero or heroine play these characters and get life in them with all the best sets. Do not forget to loose the excitement in real life while running around these stories, since you are real and movies are not.

Delegate

Delegate

It is important to destress our mind, the steps to do this is exercise, meditate, eat healthy and delegate so that your stress level decrease and one can get more time for "me time". Is this really true, I understand that most of the times when I delegate activities it so happens that I get stressed more. What could be the reasons...

I was working in office and decided to do the same and delegate some activity to my subordinate, everything was moving okay.. when the deadlines came closer I observed that most of the activities are not completed on time. That is the reason when we realised that its the problem which was faced in the delegation. When we delegate a key to making this process successful is the report and review process. The day when concerned people come together and look at the progress of the activity. We cannot rely just on the response of all is okay, coz most of the times it is not true. Make the person sit in front of you and do the activities, if its a program, see that the report is extracted in front of you and then check for the tally, most of the times there is adjustments in the data which is shown to us.. So we are kept thinking that all is okay but nothing is going as per plan.

The key to becoming the top person is to learn which activities to delegate, how to extract data and how to cross check. One should never delegate activity before they have performed them by their own hand, thats the time when we understand what are the steps, how tedious is the job, where is the possibility of data going wrong and ways to find out this error. Then and then only a delegated work can become successful.

So next time you delegate - do the activity atleast 3 times by your own hand and then hand over it to your subordinate. A regular checking and discussion with other parties is necessary to know problems and sort them step by step. So delegation will decrease your stress and not increase it..

Its you and you only

Its you and you only

When we say that I have so many friends and so many colleagues can you really say that you know everyone 100%?, even if not all can you ever know a person 100%. I would say it is never so and this is my experience.

One day I was sitting in the office, the person sitting next to me suddenly resigned. I got to know about this when he is writing his goodbye letter. I was completely surprised, I had seen Management giving extra attention to him, good increments, support and fast promotions. He was performing well, in few days time he had come close to my level. All of a sudden he resigned, when I asked him about it there was only one reason better prospects. We used to have lunch together, share our achievements, talk about bad days etc and in 1 day all was over. I felt bad for the Company and the complete team working around him. I thought I knew the person but you really cannot and not in the corporate world. The days when people used to stick to 1 Company are not more true. I would say that corporate friendship is not true, but how can a person keep so much hidden in ones mind. You are around these people 80% of the time and all of the friendship is just a show off. ...

I was talking to a very close friend and I knew his secret from an acquaintance, I tried to give my friend couple of changes but the story did not come out. I was really hurt, then I though to myself there is not point in finding out the truth if my friend doesn't want to tell. Couple of years later I get to know the same secret from my friends mouth himself, I was surprised, I asked why after so many years, the answer was, I thought you wouldn't understand. To which I coolly smiled and ended the topic. If I think, there are many secrets I have not told anyone other that the people with whom they have happened, so should I really get angry on my friend for not sharing?

You can never know the person truly. There are lot of things hidden in ones mind. Parents dont know their kids 100%, Kids dont know their siblings 100%, Spouses dont know each other 100%, if this is the reality I keep on asking myself which is the person in this world whom one can trust fullest. The answer I get, Its you and you only...

Online Addiction

Online Addiction

In earlier days people used to talk about few Addictions, Alcohol and Cigarettes and few year after that they started talking about Drugs whereas now the whole buss is around Online Addiction. People sitting on the internet and watching videos. Couple of days I was one of them, I used to watch lot of videos online, let it be movies, videos, serials etc.. and my whole concentration got diverted from working in office to Online. I used to take lot of holidays to sit home do nothing but watch. Slowly my meeting friends started to decline, whenever a friend or my parents called I said, I am busy we will catch up after few days. I used to watch the same videos again and again. 

Few days passed in this scenario and I suddenly started feeling when I met people face to face I couldn't talk to them, thats when I decided things need to change. I started reading instead of watching videos online, it took me lot of efforts but the process started now I was getting bored watching the same videos again. Thats when I thought that my mind is moving in a positive direction. Now it was more of reading books, blogs and watching informative videos. I made it a point that I will watch videos only during my lunch hours, I started going for workout in the evening so the time which I used to spent on my Online Addiction is now diverted elsewhere. 

After success of the above steps, I started thinking am I still an Online Addict? Coz the amount of internet has reduced a little, nevertheless I am still writing, reading and watching online videos. Now I understood that the use of internet is made for better use and my mind is being utilised in much better capacity. I could concentrate more coz I am more interested in collecting information rather than just watching. My interaction with my friends improved since I have better topics to share in a crowed. I could see the real use of internet, and now I proudly say that yes I am an Online Addict, without needing a cure. 

"Talk, you will feel better"

"Talk, you will feel better"

When we see a friend, family member feeling low, sad, quite a typical line comes out of our mind, "Talk, you will feel better". Does it really work?

I was feeling low few days back and one of my friend just said the exact same words, and taking his advise I started to talk to him. To my surprise the whole conversation started getting intense, and I could start reading expressions on my friends face some where accepting my point of view where as few were against the points I was feeling. When I asked him why do you feel so and my friend said, since I know you from such a long time, u behaving like this is not really you. I immediately stopped talking to him and went back to feeling miserable. The feeling of myself getting judged by my friend started circling my head. Why would he say that, was I really wrong in the argument?

My mind along with the argument now added one more angle, my friend is judging me and there is no one to whom I can go to. 1 headache was less that this was also had to add.. He started telling me about all the incidences which had happened with me earlier, was I really ready for all the old discussion again... no I just wanted to deal with this one and I just wanted a  friend who would listen....So I said bye to my friend and told him I have to clear my head.

I was sitting in a park and I met a person sitting next to me, we both bought the same food to eat from a place across our sitting area. Looking at my face the person asked, Are you alright? and the same same line, "Talk, you will feel better". I laughed in my head and said I tried that, it did not work. To my answer the person calmly said, try again. I narrated the same story to him as I told my friend, and the person remained quite. He said eat your food its getting cold... Sitting there looking at the lake we both finished our food, said our goodbyes and left.

While walking back home, I was feeling much better, relieved, less stressed much happier, I then felt that I just needed a person who will hear me out with any reactions. There are times when you need to empty your head with putting in new angles. And the person helped me achieve that. So the incidence made me think is it "Talk, you will feel better" or "Talk to unknown person, you will feel better"

What's your favourite..... ?

What's your favourite..... ?

Lot of people ask me 'What's your favourite....?' with this question I get confused, does this happen to me or to everyone on this planet. When you ask a person this question its a situational answer the person gives according to what he is feeling at that moment of time. How can one say he has 1 favourite thing, the world is full of emotions, feeling, situation, mentality of the person. So 1 day he can say red is my favourite and on some other day he may say Green. Does this make the person less of a firm behaviour/decision maker, No.... The time has changes the person has matured more in his life, he has learnt few more lesson, he is in a different state of mind, thats the reason his answer has changed.

I am trying to do my interior of my house, it becomes so difficult sometimes to choose the right colour, hence I decided to go with with and then shifted my decision couple of days ahead, not its time for furniture again the same question which colour, I am more than confused to choose coz this colour is going to stay in the house in that same room for couple of years. Today my mood and mindset is in a particular way so I will make a decision, what if I regret my decision after couple of months..... Decisions need to be made and I have to stick to them. Does similar dilemma come to you?

When we say X is my favourite sports, does that mean I am good at it, or I have knowledge about it and I follow it more than any other sport. If I start concentrating on any other sport will I start liking it more? 

When I go on a date a list of typical ice breaker questions start to pop up, whats your favourite colour, ice-cream, style of food, actor, actress, song, movie, sport etc and the list goes on, so if I tell one of my date some answer and some other date a different answer is it wrong.. nope the mood has changed and my liking has changed. Thus the answer to my blog 'What's your favourite....?' will keep on changing and I say it should change.. whats your opinion...